GOD'S CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE

GOD'S CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE
(The Original Architectural Design Of Marriage).

Marriage is deeply beautiful, but it's also where the rubber meets the road in everyday life, and it is tested constantly. To make Marriage truly effective, you need to balance your thoughts of this complex  institution with deep spiritual truth, and with raw Biblical insights to help make you practically apply it to your journey in marriage for a Strong and Long lasting outcome.

I'll be taking you through a very eventful voyage, on this topic MARRIAGE.
The purpose of this teaching is to help remind people that Marriage is not what it is termed to be from the 'Modern Cultural View ' which has really made lots of people run into all manner of complications and now feel Marriage is a Distortion for life.

We will be looking at :
​- What Is Marriage?
​- What Is The Real Origin Of Marriage?
- ​What Marriage is, and what it is not?
- ​What Is The Real Concept Of Marriage?
​- Why Must We Get Married?
​- Who Do I Marry?
​- How Does Marriage Work?
​- How Do We Keep The Fire Alive In Marriage?

I'll be summing up and expanding teachings on:
- ​How Do I Distinguish Between Chemistry And Compatibility?
​- What Is The Unhealed Baggage We Are Both Bringing To The Table?
​- Are We Supposed To Agree To The Same Blueprint?
- ​How Do We Fight For Each Other, Instead Of With Each Other?
- ​How Do We Keep The Fire Alive When Our - Daily Routines Tries To Choke It?
​- How Do We Extend Grace When We Are Deeply Hurt?

WHAT IS MARRIAGE ?

To really define marriage correctly, we must look past the modern cultural view of marriage as a mere legal contract or an emotional coping mechanism.

Marriage is a Theocentric institution (which means: God-centered) . Marriage was not invented by any human society, nor did it evolve through cultural convenience.
It was originally designed by God to be a physical, earthly mirror of an eternal, heavenly reality.

"Marriage is a sacred, lifelong covenant instituted by God, wherein a man and a woman leave their independent lives to be supernaturally fused into 'one flesh.' It is designed to cultivate personal holiness, provide mutual companionship, and serve as a living, earthly monument of Christ’s sacrificial love for His Church."

Therefore, when a marriage functions correctly, it preaches the Gospel without words. When a marriage breaks down, it distorts the image of God's character to the watching world.

WHAT IS THE REAL ORIGIN OF MARRIAGE?

Historians will tell you that marriage originated as a socio-economic tool created by ancient civilizations to protect property rights, secure alliances, and ensure legitimate heirs.
But when we look through the lens of biblical revelation, marriage is pre-cultural, pre-political, and pre-religious. It is the oldest human institution on Earth, predating the fall of man, long before the establishment of the nation of Israel, long before the giving of the Law, and the founding of the Church.
The real origin of marriage is found exclusively in the Mind, the Sovereignty, and the Creative Action of Almighty God.
Based on Genesis 1 and 2, the origin and clear definition of Marriage by three distinct realities is clearly made:

1. It Originated in the beginning and in the Reality of Human Incompleteness
In Genesis 1, God creates light, the oceans, the stars, the plants, and the animals. After every single creative act, God looks at it and declares: "It is good."
Although Genesis 1: 26-30 gives us a quick summary of the creation of man.
Then, in Genesis 2 the creation of man and the institution of marriage is then brokendown.
God places Adam in the perfect environment of Eden. Everything is flawless. Yet, suddenly, God makes a shocking, unprecedented observation and declaration:
"Then the Lord God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.'"
— Genesis 2:18

This is the first time in the history of creation that something was actually "not good." Adam was perfectly connected to God spiritually, but he was isolated relationally on Earth.
God deliberately created Adam with a built-in capacity and need for human companionship. The origin of marriage began when God identified a void in man that only a woman could fill.

2. It Originated in a Divine "Surgery and Separation" and Presentation
God did not create woman from the dust of the ground as He did with Adam. If He had, she would be completely separate in origin. Instead, God performed the first surgical operation:
"So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man..."
— Genesis 2:21-22a

Be quick to note that the woman was not made out of man's head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected by him, and near his heart to be loved by him.

And the text further goes on to say: "...and He brought her to the man." (Gen 2:22b).

God Himself acted as the very first Father of the Bride. He didn't let Adam look for her; God designed her, built her, and personally presented her to the man.
- Note:
How God only separated one woman from his rib and not two or multiple women, even when after her creation He was going to give man a Herculean task of procreation and multiplying and filling the Earth with his offsprings.
The Polygamous concept was never God's design and intention for man. Man's greed has r room for him to go against God's original design for Marriage.
Although this is a teaching for another time.

Marriage originated as a direct gift from the Creator unto mankind.

3. It Originated to Reflect the Full Image of God
- Why did God go through all this trouble?
- Why not just create two men, or keep Adam solo?

The answer dives into theological understanding and Biblical insights of God's original plan:
"God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them."
— Genesis 1:27

God is a Triune
God:- Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

Within the Godhead, there is eternal community, perfect love, communication, and submission. A single human being living in isolation could never fully mirror a Triune, communal God.
Therefore, God originated marriage so that when the male and female come together in perfect, self-giving unity, they display a physical reflection of the communal nature of God.

Because marriage originated by God, it is important to note that:
it can only be governed by God's rules, not man's trends and rules.

Humanity did not invent marriage, which means humanity does not have the authority to redefine it, reshape it, or dismantle it.

It is a divine masterpiece designed to give us a taste of heaven on earth.

WHAT MARRIAGE IS, AND WHAT IT IS NOT?

1. Marriage Is A Covenant, And Not A Contract
In the  recent Western culture against biblical theology, there is a massive distinction between a CONTRACT and a COVENANT.
- A Contract is a transactional based on mutual suspicion:
"I will do this if you do that"

- A Covenant is a lifelong commitment based on sacrificial love and mutual trust:
"I give myself to you completely, regardless of the cost".

Prophet Malachi explicitly defines marriage in these terms:
"Yet you say, 'For what reason?' Because the Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant."
— Malachi 2:14

A biblical marriage is a three-way covenant sealed before God as the ultimate witness. It cannot be dissolved by a change in feelings and taste, because it is anchored in an oath before the Lord who instituted it in the beginning of time.

2. Marriage is the Ontology of "One Flesh" (The Tripartite Paradigm)
In Genesis 2:24;
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

we find the foundation and blueprint of marriage, which Jesus our Lord and Savior Himself quotes in Matthew 19:5 and Apostle Paul quotes in Ephesians 5:31.

Matthew 19:5
and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?

Ephesians 5:31
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

It relies on three specific Hebrew verbs that establish a brand-new ontological reality:
1. To Leave (Azab) --->    2. To Cleave (Dabaq)  --->    3. To become One Flesh (Basar Echad)

1. Leaving (Azab):
To sever primary dependence on the family of origin. It establishes a new, independent structural unit.

2. Cleaving (Dabaq):
A fierce Hebrew word meaning "to be glued, welded, or pursued hard." It speaks of unbreakable loyalty.

3. One Flesh (Basar Echad):
This is not just about physical intimacy. Echad implies a complex unity—two distinct personalities, histories, and temperaments fused into a singular, functional entity.

Jesus underscores the absolute permanence of this fusion in the Gospels:
"So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate."
— Matthew 19:6

3. Marriage is a Mirror of Christ and the Church (The Mystery Revealed)
The ultimate functional manual of marriage is found in Ephesians 5. Apostle Paul lays out the instructions for Husbands and Wifes, but then he pulls back the curtain to reveal the grand supernatural design behind the institution:
"For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church."
— Ephesians 5:31-32

From the very beginning in Genesis, God shaped the concept of a husband and a wife so that humanity would have a tangible, living illustration of how Jesus loves His people.
The wife’s response to her husband models how the Church honors, respects, and yields to Christ.
The husband’s responsibility to his wife models how Christ loved the Church—not by dominating her, but by dying for her ("as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her" - Eph 5:25).

Remember: 
When a marriage functions correctly, it preaches the Gospel without words. When a marriage breaks down, it distorts the image of God's character to the watching world.

4. Marriage is a Crucible for Sanctification
Scripture never presents marriage as a playground for self-gratification, but rather as a school of discipleship. In Proverbs 27:17, we read that "Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."
Nowhere does this sharpening happen more intensely than in marriage. It forces two humans to confront their own selfishness, pride, and impatience. Marriage is God’s design to make us Holy before it makes us happy. It demands the daily application of Colossians 3:13: "Bearing with one another, and forgiving one another... just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you."

WHAT IS THE REAL CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE?

To move from the origin of marriage to its real concept, we have to look at the fundamental blueprint and inner mechanics of how it is designed to operate.
While the origin tells us where marriage came from, the concept explains what it actually is and how it functions when it is aligned with its original architectural design.

The real concept of marriage is built upon six unalterable structural pillars:

1. The Concept of Monogamy: Exclusivity (One Man, One Woman)
When God established the prototype for marriage, He did not create a community or a harem for Adam. He created a singular partner.
The math of Genesis is strictly 1 + 1 = 1.

"Therefore a man [singular] shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife [singular], and they shall become one flesh."
— Genesis 2:24

- Not ADAM, Eve, and Evelyn:
God created one Eve for one Adam. The covenant design demands Total (Complete); undivided emotional and physical exclusivity.

- The Flaw of Multiplicity:
Whenever we see polygamy or third-party interference introduced in Scripture (such as Abraham, Sarah, and Hagar, or Jacob, Leah, and Rachel), it invariably introduces structural fracture, rivalry, and deep emotional pain.

- The Reflection of Christ:
In the New Testament, the theological reason for monogamy becomes crystal clear: Marriage mirrors Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5). Christ does not have multiple brides; He has one Bride. Therefore, a marriage must be one man and one woman to accurately reflect that spiritual reality.

2. The Concept of Heterosexuality: Gender Complementarity (Male and Female)
The modern cultural narrative attempts to detach marriage from biological gender alignment, but biblical theology anchors marriage immutably within the male-female binary created by God.
"God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them."
— Genesis 1:27

Adam and Eve (Not Adam and Anderson or Eve and Eva):
God did not create a duplicate of Adam (another man) because a duplicate cannot provide complementarity. He created a biological and psychological counterpart—a female.

Procreative and Relational Design: The command to "be fruitful and multiply" (Genesis 1:28) requires the distinct biological fusion of male and female. Two people of the same gender cannot fulfill the original procreative mandate of the family unit.

The Functional Gender Fit: 
The woman was designed to be the "matching reflection" to the man. Same-sex unions attempt to fuse two identical halves rather than two complementary opposites, breaking the divine blueprint of how the home is meant to be balanced.

Keynote:
"God’s original blueprint is specific. It is not an open-source document that culture and other concepts can edit.
The architectural design of marriage requires a specific alignment: it is strictly Monogamous (one man and one woman, because Christ has only one Bride) and it is strictly Heterosexual (male and female, because God created opposites to complement, not duplicates to copy). Any variation outside of this boundary is a departure from the Creator's concept and purpose."

3. The Concept of Companionship Complementarity (Ezer Kenegdo - עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֹ)
When God looked at Adam and saw his isolation, He said, "I will make him a helper fit for him" (Genesis 2:18).

In modern English, the word "helper" sounds subordinate, like an assistant or an employee. But in theological Hebrew, the term is Ezer Kenegdo, which carries immense power and dignity:
- Ezer:
This word is used predominantly in the Old Testament to describe God Himself when He steps in as Israel’s military deliverer, strength, or rescue (e.g., "God is our help and our shield"). It implies a strong partner who brings vital strength to an area of lack.

- Kenegdo:
This means "opposite to him," "matching him," or "a mirror reflection."

The real concept of marriage is not a master-servant dynamic, nor is it a competitive rivalry. It is two uniquely different individuals designed to perfectly match, balance, and complete one another to accomplish a single divine assignment.

4. The Concept of "Leave and Cleave" (A Total Restructuring of Priority)
The real concept of marriage demands a permanent shift in a human being’s highest earthly allegiance. In Genesis 2:24, God establishes the structural order:
"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife..."

The Leave:
This is not a rejection of parents, but a legal and emotional graduation. It means the emotional, financial, and decision-making dependence on your family of origin is severed (Disconnected and a Departure).

The Cleave:
The Hebrew word used here is Dabaq, which literally means "to be glued, welded, or permanently fused together."

The concept here is structural integrity. If you try to separate two pieces of wood that have been properly welded together, you won't get a clean break; you will tear the fibers of both. Marriage is conceptualized as an unbreakable bond where your spouse becomes your primary earthly neighbor, priority, and teammate.

5. The Concept of "One Flesh" (Basar Echad)
The cultural view reduces "one flesh" strictly to physical and sexual intimacy. However, biblical theology treats it as a profound ontological fusion—the merging of two entire existences into one singular corporate unit.

Shared Identity:
You no longer view life through the lens of "Me vs. You," but through the lens of "Us." Your victories are shared, your debts are shared, your struggles are shared, and your vision is shared.

Complex Unity:
The Hebrew word for "one" in Genesis 2:24 is Echad. This is the exact same word used in the Shema (שְׁמַע) (Deuteronomy 6:4: "The Lord our God, the Lord is one"). It represents a plural unity—distinct, unique personalities operating in absolute, harmonious oneness.

6. The Concept of "Naked and Unashamed" (Absolute Vulnerability)
The final verse of the foundational marriage blueprint captures the ultimate goal of marital intimacy:
"And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed."
— Genesis 2:25

Before sin entered the world, the concept of marriage included total transparency. This is far deeper than physical nakedness; it is emotional, psychological, and spiritual nakedness.

- It is the beauty of being completely known by another human being—including your flaws, weaknesses, fears, and history—and yet being completely loved, accepted, and safe in their presence.

- In the real concept of marriage, your spouse's hands are the safest place for your vulnerabilities, because a covenant leaves no room for condemnation.

Keynote
"The real concept of marriage is not about finding someone who satisfies your desires; it is about entering a covenant where two distinct lives are permanently welded into one, using their complementary strengths to reflect God's image, protect each other's vulnerabilities, and fulfill a shared divine destiny."

WHY MUST WE GET MARRIED?

From a scriptural standpoint, marriage is a divine calling, not a universal command or obligation.
Apostle Paul makes it clear in 1 Corinthians 7 that singleness is a noble, highly productive state for the kingdom of God. Therefore, a human being does not have to get married to live a fulfilled, godly life.

However, if someone does choose to marry, or if we look at why God instituted marriage for humanity as a whole, it is because marriage fulfills specific, non-negotiable divine mandates. We don't get married merely to satisfy cultural expectations, cure loneliness and gratifications, or obtain a legal certificate.
According to the original architectural design as seen in the Scriptures, we enter marriage for four foundational reasons:

1. To Fulfill the Mandate of Covenant Companionship
The very first reason God created marriage was to solve the only problem that existed before sin entered the world: human isolation.
"Then the Lord God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.'"
— Genesis 2:18

God did not create humanity to be isolated islands. While our vertical relationship with God satisfies our spiritual salvation, marriage was designed to satisfy a specific horizontal need for intimate, lifelong companionship.

It is a covenant where two people promise to walk shoulder-to-shoulder through the trials, victories, and routines of earthly life, ensuring that neither has to weather the storms of life alone (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).

2. To Serve as a Crucible for Sanctification (Holiness)
Many people get married expecting it to be a permanent vacation of happiness. But structurally, God designed marriage to make us holy before it makes us happy.
"Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."
— Proverbs 27:17

Living with another imperfect human being in close quarters acts as a mirror. It exposes your hidden selfishness, your impatience, your pride, and your flaws. You cannot hide your true nature from your spouse.
Therefore, marriage is God’s primary institutional tool to chip away at our rough edges, forcing us to daily practice Christlike forgiveness, humility, and sacrificial love (Colossians 3:13).

Marriage is a school of spiritual maturity.

3. To Fulfill the Procreative Mandate (The Next Generation)
God uniquely engineered the physical, emotional, and structural union of one man and one woman to be the exclusive, safe greenhouse for multiplying godly legacy on the earth.
"God blessed them; and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it...'"
— Genesis 1:28

The Prophet Malachi expands on why God wanted the "one flesh" union to produce children, explicitly stating the divine objective:
"But not one has done so who has a remnant of the Spirit. And what did that one do? He was seeking a godly offspring."
— Malachi 2:15

Marriage provides the stable, secure, and structured environment where the next generation can be raised, discipled, and anchored in the admonition of the Lord, preserving a righteous legacy in a broken world.

4. The Divine Reason: To Preach the Gospel Without Words
As a theologian, this is the ultimate, highest reason for the existence of marriage. Marriage does not exist for us; it exists to point to Christ.
Apostle Paul reveals the mystery of the husband-wife dynamics in Ephesians 5:31-32, he states that the "one flesh" reality is a direct earthly type, shadow, and monument of Christ's relationship with the Church.
- The Husband models the sacrificial, protective, and dying love of Jesus (Ephesians 5:25).
- The Wife models the honoring, supportive, and trusting submission of the Church (Ephesians 5:22).

When a Christian marriage functions according to the original blueprint, it serves as a living, walking prophetic billboard to a cynical world, illustrating exactly how Jesus loves His people. We get married to give the world a physical demonstration of an eternal, heavenly covenant.

Keynote
"We do not get married to only find happiness; we get married to display God's glory, cultivate Christlike character, and partner in a kingdom assignment. Happiness is simply the beautiful byproduct of a marriage that honors its original architectural design."

WHO DO I MARRY?

To answer this question with the precision, we must first of all clear away a very common myth that paralyzes many believers:
the myth of the "one and only" magical SOULMATE.

Scripture nowhere presents a divine lottery where God has hidden one specific person out of billions for you, and if you miss them by choosing someone else, your life is ruined.
Instead, biblical theology teaches that any individual who fits within God’s structural boundaries, aligns with His kingdom assignment, and willingly seals a covenant with you becomes your "one."

Choosing a spouse is a massive act of spiritual stewardship. To answer "Who do I marry?" according to the original architectural design, you must look out for three non-negotiable spiritual markers.

1. The Boundary Marker: Spiritual Alignment (Equally Yoked)
The very first filter is absolute and non-negotiable. A citizen of the Kingdom of God must only marry another citizen of the Kingdom of God.
Apostle Paul sets this strict boundary:
"Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?"
— 2 Corinthians 6:14

- Shared Root, Shared Fruit:
This is not about religious rituals; it is about identity. If you marry someone who does not serve the same Master, you are inviting structural fracture into the foundation of your future home. You will be pulling in two entirely different directions spiritually.

- The Ultimate Rule:
Apostle Paul states in 1 Corinthians 7:39 that a believer is free to marry anyone they wish, but with one critical condition: "only in the Lord."
Your spiritual foundation must be identical.

2. The Identity Marker: A True Ezer Kenegdo (Functional Fit)
As we unpacked earlier, God created Eve to be an Ezer Kenegdo—a powerful, sustaining strength that perfectly matches and mirrors the man (Genesis 2:18). Therefore, when asking who to marry, you must look for functional fit, not just emotional chemistry or financial capability.

- For Men Seeking a Wife:
You are not looking for a decorative ornament or someone to dominate. You are looking for an Ezer—a woman of spiritual strength, wisdom, and character whose presence elevates you and brings essential strength to your areas of weakness.

- For Women Seeking a Husband:
You are looking for a man who is capable of standing in front of you as a true Kenegdo—an equal counterpart who respects your dignity, matches your spiritual trajectory, and can sacrificially love and protect you the way Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25).
Chemistry gets you to the altar, but character and compatibility keep the covenant secure for forty years and above.

3. The Assignment Marker: Shared Kingdom Destination
In the ancient world, oxen were yoked together not just to walk next to each other, but to plow a specific field together. Marriage is fundamentally a partnership in a divine assignment.
Before God gave Adam a wife, He gave Adam a work (Genesis 2:15). Eve was brought in to help him fulfill that specific Edenic mandate.

Therefore, you must ask:
"Where is this person's life heading, and does it align with where God is taking me?"

- If your divine calling is to build, plant, and cultivate local communities, and the person you are dating is entirely focused on a lifestyle that pulls away from spiritual stewardship, you have a vision mismatch.

- You should marry someone whose kingdom destination matches yours, so that when you join hands, your collective impact for the Gospel is multiplied, not divided.

At The Chronicle Ark Church I try to teach our single members to choose a spouse correctly, and I try to give them effective paradigm shift teachings which is poised to help them see things differently:
"Do not look for a soulmate to complete you; look for a partner who is already complete in Christ, who loves the Lord unreservedly, and whose life assignment matches yours. Marry the person with whom you can best fulfill the purpose of God for your generation."

HOW DOES MARRIAGE WORK?

To understand this we must look at it as a divinely engineered system, looking at it as a machine.
When a machine doesn't work, we don't throw it away; we open the manufacturer's manual to see which gears are out of alignment. In the same way, biblical marriage doesn't work by accident, luck, or sheer romantic chemistry. It works when both partners consciously operate according to specific, functional laws established by the Creator.
Here is the operational breakdown of how marriage actually works, moving from the internal mechanics to daily execution.

1. The Mechanical Gear: The Principle of the Covenant
A contract works on the basis of mutual suspicion and performance ("If you do your part, I will do mine"). A biblical marriage works on the basis of a covenant, which operates on unconditional commitment ("I give 100% of myself to this union, regardless of your performance").
Prophet Malachi underscores this by calling the spouse a "wife by covenant". Because it is a covenant sealed before God as a witness, marriage works by removing the "exit strategy."
- When both partners know that divorce or abandonment is not an option, it creates a secure emotional psychological environment.
- Instead of wasting energy wondering if the relationship will survive a storm, both partners channel 100% of their energy into figuring out how to fix the problem.

2. The Power Grid: The Tripartite Model (The 3-Way Cord)
Marriage does not work as a simple two-way connection between a man and a woman. Human love fluctuates; it grows cold under stress, financial pressure, or exhaustion. For marriage to work sustainably, it must function as a three-way loop:

God <------> Husband <------> Wife

In Ecclesiastes 4:12, Solomon notes:
"A threefold cord is not quickly broken."

Marriage works when the husband and the wife are individually drawing their identity, validation, patience, and love vertically from God. When the husband is connected to Christ, he has the supernatural capacity to love his wife sacrificially. When the wife is connected to Christ, she has the spiritual grace to support and honor her husband. The closer both individuals move toward God, the closer they organically move toward each other.

3. The Daily Operational Engine: Complementarity in Action
Marriage works when a husband and wife stop competing and start complementing. This relies heavily on the functional dynamic of Ezer Kenegdo.
- The Husband Operates as the Sacrificial Leader:
Following the blueprint in Ephesians 5:25, the husband’s leadership works not by domination or dictation, but by sacrifice. He uses his strength to protect, nourish, provide for, and shield his wife.
- The Wife Operates as the Strategic Ally:
As the Ezer, she is the "sustaining strength" who brings wisdom, intuition, spiritual discernment, and balance to areas where the husband has natural blind spots or limitations.

When a marriage is working correctly, it functions like a championship sports team: the players aren't trying to play the same position; they are masterfully playing their unique roles to achieve a shared victory.

4. The Maintenance System: Fusing and Cleaving
On a daily basis, marriage works through continuous maintenance using the Hebrew principles of Leaving (Azab) and Cleaving (Dabaq).

- The "Leave" Protocol
You must constantly guard the perimeter of your marriage from third-party interference. Marriage stops working the moment a husband or wife allows a mother, a father, a sibling, or a friend to have a higher emotional voice in their life than their spouse. The primary human allegiance must strictly belong to your partner.

- The "Cleave" Protocol
The word Dabaq implies a permanent weld. Fusing two distinct personalities, upbringings, habits, and financial mentalities into "one flesh" (Basar Echad) creates natural friction. Marriage works through the daily application of Colossians 3:13:
"Bearing with one another, and forgiving one another... just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you."

Forgiveness is the oil that keeps the gears of marriage from grinding to a halt. It is the practical choice to clear the slate daily so that past offenses do not become toxic buildup in the machinery of the home.

- The Executive Summary
"Marriage works when both partners stop demanding that their spouse satisfy their selfish desires, and instead start treating the marriage as a laboratory for Christlike service. It works when you protect your boundaries, honor your distinct roles, and keep God as the structural anchor of the covenant."

HOW DO WE KEEP THE FIRE ALIVE IN MARRIAGE?

In the Old Testament, the fire on the altar of God was never kept burning by a one-time supernatural act of lightning. It required daily, intentional, physical maintenance by the priests.
God declared the law of the altar in Leviticus 6:12-13:
"The fire on the altar shall be kept burning on it. It shall not go out, but the priest shall burn wood on it every morning... Fire shall be kept burning continually on the altar; it shall not go out."

In the original architectural design, the fire in your marriage behaves exactly like the fire on the altar. Passion is not a self-sustaining entity; it is the byproduct of daily fuel. If the fire is dying, it is because the priests of the home have stopped laying wood on the altar.
Here is the strategic scriptural framework to keep the covenant fire burning intensely over a lifetime.

1. The Daily Fuel: Cultivate Deep Friendship and Shared Joy
The fire of passion cannot survive without the coal of deep companionship. Too many couples become mere business partners—managing bills, chores, and children—while completely abandoning the joy that brought them together.
The Book of Ecclesiastes gives a highly practical, lifestyle command:
"Enjoy life with the wife whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun..."
— Ecclesiastes 9:9a

- The Command to Enjoy:
Notice that enjoying your spouse is presented as a spiritual directive. You must deliberately create space for laughter, date nights, unhurried conversations, and playfulness.
- The Power of Memory:
In the Book of Revelation, when Jesus addresses a church that has lost its fire, He gives them a clear diagnostic tool: "Remember therefore from where you have fallen, and repent and do the deeds you did at first" (Revelation 2:5). To keep the fire alive, go back and consistently do the things you did when you first fell in love.

2. The Oxygen: Clean the Ashes of Unforgiveness Immediately
A fire needs oxygen to burn. In a marriage, the primary suffocator of oxygen is resentment. When tiny offenses, unmet expectations, or arguments are left unaddressed, they settle at the bottom of the relationship like toxic ash, slowly choking out emotional and physical intimacy.

The Apostle Paul gives a strict daily boundary for managing conflict:
"Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity."
— Ephesians 4:26-27

- Keep Short Accounts:
To keep the altar clean, you must clear the ashes daily. Do not hoard grudges.
- Starve the Enemy:
When you drag today's offense into tomorrow, you give the enemy a foothold ("an opportunity") to build walls of coldness and emotional distance. Fire requires an atmosphere of absolute safety, which can only be sustained through rapid, daily forgiveness (Colossians 3:13).

3. The Sparks: Prioritize Physical and Sexual Intimacy
God is the author of human sexuality, and He designed physical intimacy to be the powerful, biological glue that continually seals the "one flesh" (Basar Echad) reality. It is not an optional luxury; it is a vital structural pillar of a healthy marriage.
The New Testament addresses this with radical clarity:
"The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another..."
— 1 Corinthians 7:3-5a

- Mutual Stewardship:
Scripture conceptualizes your physical body as a gift placed in the hands of your spouse. Intimacy works when both partners focus entirely on serving and satisfying the other person rather than demanding their own fulfillment.
- Defend the Bedroom: Consistent physical connection keeps the hearts of a couple tender toward each other. The Song of Solomon celebrates this passionate, unashamed physical romance as an essential, beautiful expression of the covenant.

I'll be drawing the curtains here and in my next teachings I will be surely teaching on:

​- How Do I Distinguish Between Chemistry And Compatibility?
​- What Is The Unhealed Baggage We Are Both Bringing To The Table?
​- Are We Supposed To Agree To The Same Blueprint?
​- How Do We Fight For Each Other, Instead Of With Each Other?
​- How Do We Keep The Fire Alive When Our Daily Routines Tries To Choke It?
​- How Do We Extend Grace When We Are Deeply Hurt?

I'll be summing up and expanding teachings on these topics.
Although I will be speaking soon on ABUSE IN MARRIAGE as this is one topic which has been misconstrued and many feel it's a one-sided case study.

Please do place your comments on the comment section and also suggest what other topics you would like me to share my thoughts on.
Thanks for your time, God bless you richly.

Pastor Chidi OHANUM.

Join Us In The Month Of September.

 The totality of GOD is centered on PRINCIPLES, He uniquely designs everything and places PRINCIPLES on them for proper running and functionality. 

The question now is who is a DIGGER and who is a BEGGAR? 

What is God trying to pass across?

Why not join me in any of the SUNDAYS in this month of September 2020, and let's discover who and what "DIGGERS & BEGGARS" is all about.

I'm Pastor Chidi Ohanum and I'll be glad to reveal this Mystery packed in this Sermon Series.

See you soon!

Join Us For Our Services.

 

WHAT GOD HAS PLANNED FOR NIGERIA IN 2020...

I bring you greetings from the Throne of Grace, Seasons Greetings to you all and your lovely families.

At this point in time I'm not speaking to you as a preacher, but as a servant and a messanger who is on an important errand.
It's easy to ignore my message, and very tasking to see to actualizing the content of my message. The choice remains yours.

In 2020 God is going to spark up the Deliverance of NIGERIA, and no power will be able to truncate His move over NIGERIA no matter what.
But this can only come to be when Christians and all believers set aside their denominational affiliations and focus solely on praying for Nigeria more than ever.

The devil has devised ways to mislead Christians and believers from understanding God's original purpose for their lives and their spiritual dominance in this ailing world.
Christians systematically now unconsciously practise baseless religion, rather than understanding the real purpose and essence of becoming like Jesus Christ (CHRISTIAN). The devil is no longer fighting the Church 'opposively', but within our space of belief.
One of the lies of the devil on the issue of Nigeria is the repeated saying of so called wise people and which is; 'God has done all He can do for Nigeria, it's hightime Nigerians take the bull by the horn and help themselves...
This is a Big lie of the devil to discourage Christians and true believers from praying and calling on the name of the Lord seizelessly for Nigeria.  Nigeria is under serious spiritual attack, and I am not saying this to scare anyone but to draw our attention to the wicked schemes of the enemy to dislodge the true mandate of God for Nigeria in this Endtime.

The point at which Nigeria has found herself in, needs lots of selfless prayers, and unbiased hearts coming together under one umbrella of spiritual maturity as seen in Ephesians 4:13  where our sole purpose of coming together to pray has nothing to do with 'the venue, the Church in question or the Pastor(s) leading these prayers... No! If only we come to the point of 'Unity of Faith and Spiritual Maturity' which voids denominational discrimination and doctrinal walls, and solely focus on praying for Nigeria until we see answers.
Politics is just the gimmick the devil has been using to distort the mandate and original purpose of God for Nigeria and for the Endtime Church. But most Christians don't see this fact and they play down the antics of the old serpent without weighing the consequence of doing so.
PDP, APC, AC and so on isn't the real problem of Nigeria, but the antics of the devil to deceive and weaken the prayer life of the Church in Nigeria.

O yes we pray against enemies within and without our father's house and so on, we pray for financial breakthroughs and healings,  no that's not what the Church which stands as the Watchman of the nation should be praying basically about now.
The Church should stand as the intercessor for the nation, and not another option for every success and healing seeking people distracting our main spiritual obligation for Nigeria as a nation.

> 2 Chronicles 7: 14
14   If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sins, and will heal their land.

At some point in life, we ought to come back to the Lord, in Humility knowing fully well we have erred and wandered away from His will and purposes for us...
The Church in all streets and corners of this nation who have been called by the Lord, should humble themselves forgetting their status, their denominational strength, their popularity and their doctrine and all that defines them. We all need to come under one umbrella and unite in the name of Him who had called us all, and then Pray, seeking His face day and night asking for His forgiveness for the nation and asking for His divine intervention.
This is beyond the physical, the state of Nigeria has gone beyond just mere physical analogy and analysis. It is a very strong spiritual battle which only God can deliver us from it.

Enough of speaking too much grammar and English on social media platforms, as Christians, we are Watchmen whose main priority is to stand in the gap of our nation and PRAY!

So, the message is; "2020 is a year the Nigerian Church should Stand Up as one body in Christ Jesus and Pray earnestly for Nigeria, and call unto God to stretch forth His hands and heal Nigeria."

If it is by sin, as a nation we have sinned beyond bounds and have sneared our hands with innocent blood and have done great wickedness before the Lord.
We need to ask for forgiveness and humbly call on Him to fix Nigeria.
Arguing won't solve our problem, force won't solve it either... The Church needs to take its rightful place and Pray.


God bless Nigeria, God bless His Church and may God unite His house here in Nigeria, Amen!

May 2020 bring the Church of God closer to each other and may we fulfill our spiritual mandate for Nigeria and even to the main events of the Endtime.


Maranatha!



God bless you.
Pastor Chidi Ohanum.

DON'T MARRY WHO YOU LOVE


Don't be quick to conclude on my Title Of Discussion, it's imperative to know and understand my standpoint. Please read through and possibly drop your comment as a medium of 'feedback and discussion' for others to benefit from this discuss...

Dictionary Definitions:

Love [n.]:
A feeling of strong attachment induced by that
which delights or commands admiration; preeminent
kindness or devotion to another; affection; tenderness;
as, the love of brothers and sisters.

Love [n.]:
Affection; kind feeling; friendship; strong liking
or desire; fondness; good will; -- opposed to hate; often
with of and an object.

Love [n.]:
Courtship; -- chiefly in the phrase to make love, i. e., to court,
 to woo, to solicit union in marriage.

Love [n.]: Cupid, the god of love; sometimes, Venus.

Love [v. i.]:
To have the feeling of love; to be in love.

Lovely [superl.]: Lovable; amiable; having qualities of
any kind which excite, or are fitted to excite, love or friendship.


The above mentioned definitions give an idea what love means to a lot of mistaken individuals.
The mistake of thinking or understanding the true meaning of LOVE wrongly abridge's the original plan and purpose of Love.
Many relationships today suffer this terrible error, most individuals in false Love Relationship are suffocating and looking for a way out of what seemed to be a perfect "Romantic Fairytale."
Love for a blissful marriage is not;

👉  “Eros” or Erotic Love
Which is named after the Greek god of love and fertility. Eros represents the idea of sexual passion and desire.
Some relationships are overwhelmed with the euphoria of this kind of Love, the love that has its pleasurable experience and gains as it's set goal.
Eros is an idealistic type of love that is seemed to be felt in the hearts, and can be used to “recall knowledge of beauty” through intimacy and sex. When Eros is misguided then it lead to misuse, abuse and indulged in, which would lead to impulsive acts and heart break.
Check yourself if that relationship is making you act impulsively and you have heart breaks, be sure you're in this type of Love.

👉 “Ludus” or Playful Love
Ludus has a bit of the erotic eros in it, it is much more than that. The Greeks thought of ludus as a playful form of love, a form of game, the affection between young lovers. Where a form of principle that guards them has to do with "experimenting and conquering presumed boundaries.
Love that would grant you access to "Blissful Marriage" has nothing to do with this type of Love.

👉 “Mania” or Obsessive Love
Mania love is a type of love that leads a partner into a type of madness and obsessiveness. It occurs when love is misconstrued and there is an imbalance between eros and ludus.


The above kinds of Love mentioned are the bedrock and foundation for today's marriages. Most people mistake Love for the pleasurable attachment that tickles your fancy.
Love is not in those "Romantic Text Messages that wows you and you feel blown off, love is not in those fancy gifts and Thoughtful Surprises that melts your heart and kindles a certain fire of lust and infatuation within you, love is really not in those extra hours and moments of visits that assumes care and warmth..." love is none of these.
All of these kind of love only centers on "ATTRACTION", this is what triggered the desire in the first place. To some it's the 'beauty and handsome nature of the opposite sex, to some it's the curves and physic that captures his/her attention, to some it his/her sense of humor, intelligence, level of education, societal status, strength and control, financial status..." So on and so forth...
All of these only qualify for "LIKENESS" and not Love.
If you have all of these hooked up within you and you expect a blissful marriage, then you only deceive yourself. Your so called love is momentarily centered on the physical. When those things that are it's form or cause of attraction fades away then the exactness of the heart begins to show forth and the veil of 'your so called love' begins fall off and the same eyes that saw 'a Prince Charming / Fairytale Princess' begins to see all sorts of personalities that aren't pleasant.

THE TRUE TYPE OF LOVE

Love is not "Sentimental nor feed by unnecessary Emotions", it is not based on Conditions, it is boundless and sees no Flaws...

True love is gradual but steady in growth, it does not build it's base on just the physical but it anchors it's hope on the infinite complexity of life.
True love is God's original architecture for man's Love for his beloveth, the real blueprint that forsakes hurt and offence, but strives to forgive and continue to Love and cherish his/her relationship despite the multitude of wrongs.
True Love is Sacrificial, it never demands soo much in return.
Sincerely true love comes with pain, but a beautiful kind of pain, this kind of love is never regrettable.
A typical example of this kind of LOVE is God Almighty, He so loved us that he sees us as His bride and despite all we do against His will and purpose He forgives us and seeks for ways to draw us closer to have a better and beautiful relationship with Him. In the sight of trying to show His unrelenting love for us, He sent part of Himself to us as an atonement for our sins, the ultimate sacrifice that brings us to the standard of His righteousness and gives us covering to attain His point of Holiness. (John 3:16)
Sending Jesus as His only begotten son was to establish the fact that He would give Himself for our sakes... Jesus was not just the son of God, but He was a part of God made manifest in human form.

John 1: 1-2
"1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
2 The same was in the beginning with God."

True love made manifest for us to learn from. True love bears a whole lot of pain and sacrifices to establish it's true intentions.
So,  when I say do not marry who you love, I simply mean don't marry based on the contradiction of the canal and literal meaning of love.

👉 Love is not based on just his charming looks nor hear radiant beauty, it's not centered on her accent or his either, not based on his physique or her curves... No!

WHO SHOULD I MARRY? 

Before you tie the knot, make sure you at least look out for these major attributes in your soon to be spouse:

👉 You must be comfortable around him / her
👉 He/she must not abuse your person and presence
👉 He/she must not be hot tempered in nature, at least not to the point of unnecessary violence and rage
👉 He/she must respect you for who you are, and not otherwise
👉 He/she must love WORK, do not hope to marry a lazy man or a lazy and lousy woman. He or she must appreciate work and earning money for the family and not lazy about
👉 He/she must have regard for your family
👉 He/she must love the things of God and the gathering of the Saints
👉 He/she must be a lover of peace
👉 You must try to discern if he/she has patience as an inate attribute
👉 you must have at least 70% knowledge of his/her family background and must know what so ever needs to be known on-time
👉 He/she must not have any form of questionable character
👉 It is not really necessary for your spouse to be too educated, but it's important that he/she must be intelligent
👉 You must marry a man/woman whom your heart regards as a friend and he/she must also regard you as a true friend also

With a few of the above present in your proposed spouse, you both will gradually build up a relationship that has love as its sure foundation

Love aligns with God's plan for marriage, after you have found the very one whom you believe you can spend the rest of your life with. Then overtime Love establishes a strong bond between you and your beloved, and in the midst of these all sacrifices are made through the journey of your marriage.

Friends, these words might sound abstract to some readers and too extreme for some others. But, I also know that to some these words won't make any kind of sense to them. It's normal, the True mysteries of the Lord and His kingdom is foolishness to a whole lot of canal people who refuse to seek His wisdom.

I'm not really pleased with the rate at which 'Divorce and Marriage Separations' keep springing up here and there, and making the institution of marriage look ordinary and not potent in the time and season which we all find ourselves.
Marriage is not an institution meant for fibble minds nor for those who are not spiritually mature and alert of God's purpose and plan. Marriage is beyond you 'saying I love you' , it is deeper than that, it has its source from the realms of the spirit and it's original source from GOD Almighty.
Why not join a true Bible believing and practicing Church to learn and be guided to the real essence of MARRIAGE. You can never get the true potential of a device until you take your time to study the manual, same is to marriage.

Marriage can not be totally understood through just reading marital books and gospel books, but you discover a whole lot through Bible teachings and Bible based discussions.

Just know that as I write this post so many marriages are in various types of mess, and a whole lot have crashed because Yahweh was omitted from the equation. Who builds a house without a solid foundation?
We are a few servants of God in this time and season which are tired of seeing marriages crash and turn into a joke for the devil to glory upon. Seek a place of worship, a place where Gods true words are been said and practiced and plant yourself there.
God is pleased with Godly unions and He honors it, you can't just let your peace be hijacked just like that from you, connect today!

I'm Pastor Chidi Ohanum, and I'm glad to be a medium to bring these words to your door step today.

God Bless You!

*THE EMPTY TOMB = E  A  S  T  E  R*

This is why we celebrate Easter; 'not because a Miracle Worker who was Born and Killed by mortal men, or because of the Easter bunnies... No!

We celebrate Easter because;
      "GOD ALMIGHTY sent His One and only begotten Son to us to redefine our Fate and change His Death Judgement over man... and He came but His own did not believe Him neither did those who weren't His believed Him... But, in all of His message and teachings the Resurrection of Jesus Christ from the grave showed His Sonship and not just proving that He is not just another Prophet, but God's only begotten Son... John 3:16"

HAPPY EASTER for me is:
This morning He redefined who He was and who He is to the World, He made it clear that He is no longer in the grave and that the grips of Death 💀 could not hold Him down...
That has made me stronger in Faith that I serve a Living God who's power defiles Death and Commands all other powers to its subjection(Complete Authority).


I AM PROUD TO BE A CHRISTIAN & A TRUE FOLLOWER OF JESUS CHRIST, THE CROSS IS MY KEY AND CONFIDENT TO ETERNAL LIFE.


My Massage This Morning Is Not For Me To Tickle You Or Hype You, But To Remind You Of Who We Are and Where We Stand...

So, Rejoice He Has Rising He Is No More In The Grave
         
                  H A L L E L U J A H !!!
                     "JESUS IS ALIVE!!!"


Happy Easter.
From 
Pastor Chidi Ohanum

What You Carry determines on what is expected from you...

It is a fact that trucks and lorries that carry heavy loads and burdens need strong 'Rims and Shocks' to thrive.

It is also a fact that rubbers and thieves will only attack those that have something at hand,for them to be able to collect from.

Know this today; if you don't have anything to offer then the Devil will not attack you, if you don't carry something that is worthy of possing any form of threat to the kingdom of the enemy he won't attack you...

Remember to every man HE has deposited a gift or more, no man is left redundant. But, it now depends on what is deposited in you and how you maximize and  harness what ever gift that has been deposited in you, and also how you can build yourself to the optimal level that will now determine what stuff you are made of.

Don't you think it's high time you quit  living a shallow Christian life? , don't you think its high time you'd begin to acquaint yourself with the study of Gods word more than the usual? We are in the very last days and you need to update and upgrade your knowledge of God's word and understanding of HIS desires to HIS required Standard that is needed for the Time and era we find ourselves in. 

God currently wants you to be much more effective and proactive just like Apostle Paul and the Disciples of old who were relentless in the pursuit of spreading the Gospel to all Nations of the World knowing the Joy that awaits the Saints in the second coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

The constant study of HIS word would increase knowledge of HIM in you and Love for HIM the more. Remember, God created man in a unique and exceptional manner; HE created man(Women inclusive) to have 'Flesh and Blood', HE created man to have something that every other spirit beings do not have "a Soul", and HE most importantly created man to fellowship with HIM for this purpose HE created man in HIS image and likeness. 

So,  it is unfair to make our creator feel lonely and ignored when you refuse to come to the point of cordial and mutual relationship with HIM in the place of prayer and constant study of HIS word.  HE longs for your fellowhip with HIM.

And be sure that all other things will be added unto you, every other thing which you seek and search for will be made available to you after you have given HIM that which HE desires.

The Gospel seem to grow a bit cold in this part of the world because, you have refused to join in the push for it (remember the harvest is plenty, but the laborers are few...  Matthew 9:37, Luke 10:12) and preparing with high expectations of the second coming of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, which HE comes with our reward for good stewardship.

So, what then do u carry?
Just a vague image and shallow knowledge of HIM in your mind? or an In-depth and clear understanding of who HE is?
The Lord does not seek those who are lukewarm, HE seeks a vibrant Church that will be hot for HIM till HE returns...
Remember HE said:
"I will spit you out from my mouth if you are neither hot nor cold... Revelation 3:16"

Do you know what you carry?
This can only be answered based on your fellowship with HIM in the place of Prayer and constant study of the Word. If you have not unleashed what has been deposited in you, then you need to awake from your slumber and know that your quota for the job at hand is earnestly needed.  Come on board and give your own unique flavor, for this same purpose the Lord deposited that gift or gifts in you and has called you HIS service.

Enough of sitting on the fence, the harvest truly is ripe and plenteous, but the laborers are indeed few.
Do not despise your "piece in the puzzle", no man will do your portion for you except yourself.

Once again I write to remind you that we are living in a very delicate time where living outside the will of God is detrimental to anyone. This call is to those who have been having that urge to comeback to HIS love, to those who have been observing that there's something unusual lying within and to those who have the mark for stewardship on them for these last days.
I beckon on you to let go all that seem to be of importance of this world, come and embrace that which is of great reward to your eternity.

I leave these words with you "to make haste now that their is time and seek Him now that you can find Him", till I write to you again.
Remember to continue to live a life which is ready for rapture.

MARANATHA!!!

Yours In His Vineyard

Pastor Chidi Ohanum.

A CALL FOR SUPPORT

Please be kind to support our ministry(THE CHRONICLE ARK CHURCH) as we have come to the phase where we need financial support from friends of the Gospel and lovers of God's work earnestly.

We are trying to get help in the area of both "Sound and Musical equipments." We know someone out their will come to our aid and help give us a voice to reach lost souls and win more souls for the Lord in this perilous and end time.

For me as a preacher, it's better for me to ask in sincerity than to go about it in a dubious and ungodly fashion(way) that would end up putting my relationship with God at risk and defeating the purpose of the Gospel.

Please feel free to call:

+234 905 510 3325, +234 803 693 7833

To know how you can be of support to the work of God in our hands.

Remember it's not my work, but His work and He needs you to support us in wherever means necessary for the sake of the Gospel.

God bless you, and please keep living a life that is ready for RAPTURE!

Pastor Chidi Ohanum.